Life Happens When Your Busy Making Plans…

13/10/2010 by admin.

You know what they say, “the best laid plans…”, “time and unforeseen occurrence”, “the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune” and like the title says “life happens when your busy making plans”.  I felt strongly to write about this, not just because we had some life changing news recently that have altered some of our life plans but, because some ‘spiritual books’ just don’t seem to cover it.  As much as I think The Secret, Louise Hay et all are brilliant philosophies that show that thought creates so it’s best to foster a positive attitude – they also don’t always cut it.  Yes we can work towards limitless thoughts however by definition of being human we come with restrictions attached.  In spirit we are limitless, abundant, all knowing and can live in bliss and harmony so we come to earth to learn.  So by definition if everything on earth was tickety boo and a blissful limitless time – what exactly are we learning?  I’m not now going to advocate the virtues of ‘beautiful’ suffering as Mother Theresa alleged to but I also want to blow the cover off setting unreal expectations.  Do I think you can obtain wealth, have a nice house, meaningful job, fulfilling leisure activities, great car and holidays – yes of course you can work towards and have an expectation of achieving these things.  Do I think you can rely on good health, meeting Mr/ Mrs Right or have a great marriage, a happy family, have children or expect healthy children? Hope for it but don’t rely on it.  Its right to aim for these things but you can’t expect it to turn out like that.  Humans have free-will and set themselves life lessons or challenges, although you may want to or even try to change that, the fact is you can’t.  As humans its frustrating to not have control over how life pans out for our nearest and dearest (and sometimes how our health goes) but that comes with the terms and conditions.   

I recently read a booklet aimed at parents of disabled children that had a really inspiring analogy.  It goes, “I thought I was going to Paris. All my friends were going to Paris and I thought that’s where I was going, too. But I suddenly found I wasn’t in Paris. I was in Amsterdam. I didn’t want to go to Amsterdam. That wasn’t where I’d set out to go. But now I’m in Amsterdam and I’m looking around, and Amsterdam is different to Paris. But actually it’s quite beautiful in its own right.” Life will inevitably throw you a curve-ball from time to time.  It’s up to you if you want to make lemonade out of the lemons.  As Sandra Bullock said, “I used to be an optimist.  Now I know that nothing is going to turn out as I expect, although often its better.”

My advice for the dispossessed, disenchanted or just generally disheveled? You’d be surprised who else is in the same boat - and even if it seems like the titanic know your in good company and that company would like to point out that there are life-boats that some others have missed.

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